Tuesday, August 24, 2010

About Sisters

It's very appropriate that I should post this on Rakshabandhan.

My sister is my best friend. So much that I have not sought 'girl friends' simply because I had her.
Things were not so hunky dory though always. She and I are very different in nature and temperament. When we were high-middle schoolers, she and I didn't see eye to eye. She was the fun loving, total mast girl. She had a huge friends circle, she hated politics loved novels. I was the idealist who had fun debating and writing poems. We didn't necessarily have things in common, but we never ratted each other out. (Those things cannot be shared :D)
But times changed, she became the vice head girl, we moved to a big city, I was no more in a small town where I could be 'un-cool' and still survive. I am not sure if I took a cue from her, or she helped me out, but I changed for the world. Inside I was still the same, earth-hugger, BJP-hater, socialist, secular but I kept my feelings and thoughts to myself. Knowing no one was interested in my POV.
We grew up, and we weren't living in the same city. We weren't very close anymore. But there was love, we cried when we parted, we cried when we met, we missed each other, but we had our own friends.
She got married and then things really changed. Till then, Mom and I had been very close. We confided in each other, I didn't see the need to hide things from Mom and that made the relationship/friendship really strong. But Didi was married now, she had a lot to talk to Mom about and Mom had a lot of advice and help to offer. I, on the other hand was only teaching her how to use yahoomail.
I moved to the US. Now, things were completely different. I did not have Mom or my BFF around me. I had Didi. And we didn't know this, but we became really really close. I could tell her anything and she would fiercely protect me. She was probably mothering me, but I was not bothered about it. I didn't seek girl friends, if I had friends, I didn't care to be close to them. I had my sister, who I knew would always be there for me.
This lasted for exactly 7 years.
Now she and I are not in the same city. I miss her to bits, I can't just call her and tell her I want to eat this or go to her because I need to put my head on her lap.
I don't know what to say now, except that you will always be my best friend.

Aaah..very mushy, senti post. I guess I miss her a bit too much.


  1. Anonymous4:07 PM

    :) that was so sweet
    I agree u actually listed all your different phases in life

    ranchi - a pain in the behind
    Delhi - u and ur dear BFF into poems and your attitude( how can I forget that )
    me mangalore- u let's forget that part
    me return u Jbp - well that was interesting :)
    me totally broke and u helping me out
    and taking the blame for it
    how sweet
    and then Dallas - the best time
    u me and house warming
    it was the best time and I so miss u
    u have always been the more sensible one
    uve made me cry now.. Home was never far away with u in Dallas
    but u know I'll always love u
    My language and writing skills will always be
    less than yours !!! :0 there I said it ... but I love this ode to me

  2. " I, on the other hand was only teaching her how to use yahoomail."

    That was funny!!!

    But Ritu's comment is sooo touchy!!! too...

  3. Didi..
    thanks for reading :D
    it was a moment of insanity that i wrote this ;) hehe..kidding.
    love u and thanks for finally agreeing that i am write better than u :D i KNOW i do ;)
    and it's true, because of you, i didn't miss 'back home' much!

    anu..lol. it's true!