Tuesday, March 27, 2012

My Mom moment

I have read about other Moms facing this and it was time I faced it too.

This past weekend, we were at a get together which had a good outdoor space, where the kids could run around. So M and N were having a lot of fun running around, chasing imaginary things and each other and playing tag. A little while later, N got interested in a group of boys playing - they were probably 4-5 years old. N and M go upto them and statrt talking in their language which I don't think kids of that age get - they've probably forgotten it. So all of them ignore these two and run off, except this one boy who stands there listening to N jabber. Out of the blue, he pushes N and N gets angry and says to him 'No push', so the boy this time pushes both M and N. I was a little distance away, so I walked upto this boy, and I repeated what N had said except I added some vowels and prepositions ' Please don't push'. The little boy moved away and I looked around for any parents, but no one seemed to claim to know the boy.

Later G and I were discussing this and G told me I was being over protective. But I wasn't, I told him, I would've reprimanded N too if he pushed anyone, I make him apologize immediately to M when he pushes her or pulls her hair. It's just the right thing to do. Am I wrong? Should I not have said anything to the little boy, should I have let N handle the situation?

4 comments:

  1. I am glad that N defended himself. But Iwould have done what you did without a moment's thought. Maybe that is what helicopter parenting is all about...but I dont care...I am ready to help my child out when she is being defenselessly harmed.

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  2. Mighty Pipsqueek12:21 PM

    If N was at risk of being harmed, I'd have intervened. Otherwise, I'd have watched carefully and see how the situation unfolds. When I was little, I had a couple small tussles and the experience of standing up for myself gave me more confidence.

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  3. Hmm, MP, good thought, except it's so hard to see your kid being harmed or causing harm. But I think the next time it happens, I am going to let it go on for a tad longer. I hope it doesn't happen though :)

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  4. If all parents were a bit tougher on their kids on how they should behave with other kids, maybe bullying wouldnt be such a big issue in schools. Nice post as always !

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